I want you to know…
As we enter post-Chagim, I'm noticing it's a lot for many. Life can hit hard all at once. After being wrapped up for so many weeks, coming back to reality can be rough. Maybe it's finances, maybe relationships feel heavy, or just getting back into routine feels impossible. These words I'm writing to you and to myself as we step into this winter.
10/19/2025
What I want you to know…
You are ok. You are safe. You are permitted to experience what you are feeling. It won’t destroy you.
The common assumption we make is that anger will destroy relationships and everything important to us, that sadness will last forever, and that feeling fear will paralyze us and leave us incapable of handling it.
I want you to know that the opposite is true. When you feel it with enough patience and respect, the sadness lifts, the fear gets the direction and action it needs, and anger has fire and drive.
I know you were not raised to utilize these emotions because those around you were also scared they’d be paralyzed by feeling those feelings. But if you try it, during your day, in small incremental waves of allowing, you will see that you will gain strength, direction, courage, and confidence - especially by feeling those emotions.
Feeling those emotions differs from believing the judgments. Judgments - those will destroy you. Eat you up from inside. Judgment is the ego actually avoiding feeling and concluding anything difficult with a belief system so it can stop feeling what it thinks is too difficult.
So watch for that. When the brain is over-judging. Assuming that things are certain. When it’s fixed. That’s likely not truth. Drop back into the feeling and just let it be.
I also want you to know that you are a good person. And as you give goodness to yourself too, you will feel less needy from others. And in turn, you will feel your own goodness expressed.
A good person is someone wanting good. For you, for others, for the world at large. And you are that.
Value the fact that you פארגין - it’s an underrated strength. And let that strength give you the reassurance you need today. To get up and step into your next.
And on that note, your next: next can be as simple as making yourself a tea. Then a list of to-dos. Then checking off as much as possible. The next doesn’t need to be grandiose. It can even be heavy, like fear or anger. Next is little by little steps of allowing and being and taking steps of victory.
My wish for you is that you see your light just a little bit more. Lean into that light and truth. Just a bit. Trusting it a bit more. Trusting this process. Your process. That you actually matter - in your muddy, messy side and in your better, lighter sides too.
It’s all divine and perfection in the most human, imperfect way.
Reminding you that you are loved. Allowed to love. And allowed to receive love. And sometimes that love comes from God, from the blue sky. Other times that love comes from humans who come around to give. Or from those who allow you to give to them.
Let it in.
Shana Tova dear.
